“Romantic love is a desire, a motivation, a drive. It’s as primitive as feeding hunger, wealth or power. It’s this intense drive to be connected and be united and close with this person.” – Doctor Arthur Aron
Your heart is beating fast, your stomach’s full of butterflies… but why?
Because when you’re in love, your brain and body are full of chemicals, and intense emotion.
Helen Fisher, an anthropologist at Rutgers University in New Jersey, breaks it down with a bit of science – separating love into three individual brain systems:
While these systems can operate independently, people tend to crave all three for an “ideal” relationship.
So, Valentine’s Day is simply a new-age way to connect and celebrate two of these systems at the same time: sex drive and romantic love.
As for the third system? Well, if you’ve ever given your pet a Valentine’s Day treat, or shared a holiday treat with a co-worker, that’s a way of expressing the Attachment aspect!